December 2009 Archives
Is it okay to say, you’re not okay?
I’m still trying to figure out why people ask “how are you” when they don’t always want to hear the true answer? Daily, people ask one another how they feel or how life is going but when the person comes back and says “not so good” too many people tend to back off and/or hesitate asking what the problem is and quickly resort to a phrase where they don’t even have to get involved such as “Oh, I’m sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you.” Why is it that not many ask “is there anything I can do?”
There is a boat load of reasons why someone wouldn’t offer their help or support. Maybe they are afraid that the person will ask too much of them. Maybe they have too much going on and don’t have the time or can’t handle all the issues they have on their own to stop and help another person. Maybe they assume that it would be too stressful or even maybe they assume that there is nothing they can do to help. Maybe, maybe, maybe… but did you ask?
There are a lot of people, I’ve noticed, that don’t even discuss their issues with others because they feel too independent to ask and some feel they have asked for help so often in the past that no one will think to help them again. The one thing I don’t understand is why is it that when someone does finally admit that they can’t handle things on their own and they ask for help, too many people try and avoid the issue and/or keep their distance.
Too many people are so wrapped so tightly in themselves, trying to deal with their own shit that they don’t even consider helping anyone else. Did anyone ever think, if they put their own issues to the side for a moment and give a person a shoulder to cry on and help them with the details of their issues, then just MAYBE that would be all they need? A good friend will listen to anything and everything you say but sometimes try to distract your mind with things that they went through just to say “it could be worse.” Come on now… nobody wants to hear “it could be worse” when they are currently going through it!
After openly talking about what your dealing with, have you ever heard the phrase “I never been through that before, I don’t know what to tell you” or “that happened to me before but just not like that?” I’ve heard things like this all too much in my life! This is why most people just end up saying “I’m fine” when they are asked how they are. I should know cause I used to have to go to work and try not to cry or say too much about my issues at home even though people definitely notice that I was not okay and dying inside just to tell someone what life was like for me once I got home. Eventually, I stopped saying I’m fine all the time because it was apparently obvious that I was not!
It just doesn’t seem right that people have to put a mask on in front of others. Saying your fine when your not is only lying to yourself also. It’s only been a few years now, that I’ve been telling people how I really feel. Not expressively speaking my true feelings on things was just eating me alive inside! Ya know, people can potentially go crazy from having too much on their mind and no ways to vent. Watch out! When I hold too much back for too long, the words that usually come out of my mouth, at times can cut like a knife ~(-:{ Ask any of my closest friends and relatives.
What kind of world are we living in where someone in need has to hide their true feelings because they are too afraid to ask for support? I’m not even taking financial support into consideration!!
What about those of us who quit asking for help a long time ago but really do need it still? Is it too much to ask for someone we care about to OFFER their help as opposed being forced to feel weaker by admitting they need help? What about the people who barely asked for anything their whole life that feel they have only ever been a burden to those they thought truly cared?
Is it really okay to say you’re not okay?
I’m still unsure if society thinks it’s okay, but I do know one thing…
I’ve already made the decision to never again say I’m okay when I’m not because for me, it’s self-destructive, leaves me lonely, and does not resolve a thing!!!
So, with that said… how do you feel?
Cannabis Controversy by TwizzTed Tiffi
Was just reading this document from the ONDCP and this is how I feel:
“Important facts about our nation’s most misunderstood illegal drug”
Marijuana is the most commonly used illicit drug. According to the 2008 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, about 102 million Americans 12 years of age or older have at least tried marijuana once in their life, which is 41% of the entire population — National Office of National Drug Control Policy (ONDCP)
The ONDCP states that the some effects of marijuana can be:
Respiratory illnesses – Marijuana has never been known to have caused any respiratory illnesses. The people who have admitted to smoking pot and then getting respiratory issues were mostly likely to be also cigarette smokers. Needless to say, IT’S THOSE MANUFACTURED, CHEMICALLY ENHANCED CIGARETTES THAT ARE KILLING YOU, NOT the cannabis — duh!! I feel a huge difference in my breathing since I quit buying “brand name” cigarettes and began rolling my own tobacco. Took a little getting used to but it’s been so long since I’ve had a Newport that I can’t even remember what they taste like. What I do recall is all the mucus and shit I coughed up while smoking those cancer sticks! Don’t cough at all anymore… hmmm, wonder why that is? We all know that the cigarette manufacturing companies don’t care about our health they just want to make their big bucks!!! In the process, they are killing us with extra added crap we don’t need that actually CAUSES us to be addicted to a certain “brand.” Just my opinion, of course.
Problems with learning – I agree that someone who smokes marijuana could possibly acquire some learning slowness due to smoking marijuana. Although you should remember, some of us have thoughts that race through our brains so fast we can’t catch them. So why not smoke a little bud to make our lives a bit easier? It has even been proven, in some medical research studies that marijuana is also used as an alternative medication for Adderall or Ritalin, which is given to people who have ADHD or OCD. I am hoping to hear more on this topic soon!!!
Problems with memory – I can’t remember if I have had problems remembering my memory while smoking’ refer (-:{ à Just joking, rofl! I have had different results when smoking marijuana, depending on how I was feeling before I smoked it! When I am depressed and smoke it, I actually get a more clear picture of what I was depressed about, so in this case (for me) it helps, but for those people who usually have no problems remembering things.. Marijuana would most likely have an adverse affect and cause memory loss instead.
Increased heart rate – The only time my heart rate EVER increased due to marijuana was the few times that I smoked it in high school cause I thought my Mom might know when I got home and when I was first dating my ex-husband because he was against all drugs. I mean there were probably only a handful of times that I actually had an increased heart-rate from smoking herb, lol. Honestly, my heart-rate increases sporadically at times due to anxiety from the stress of being misunderstood, my entire life. Guess what actually helps me get over the anxiety the fastest? That’s right!! Mary Jane (-: But again… THAT’S JUST ME, OK!!!
Impaired coordination – The only time my coordination was ever impaired was immediately after smoking. Just like going to the bar and drinking, you should know and feel if y
ou are not okay to operate heavy machinery, then DON’T DO IT IDIOT!! People should have the ability to open their mouths and say how they feel without the pressure of being tagged as weak or incompetent.
Increased anxiety – Daily stress causes anxiety, the fact of not knowing the outcome of a situation causes anxiety, people not believing you when you’re telling the honest truth, causes anxiety; post traumatic stress disorder and other mental disorders can cause anxiety, but the only time marijuana causes anxiety is when you feel like you are doing something wrong. The fact that marijuana is illegal, yet 41% of the population has smoked it in the past, just shows that people are not apt to always comply by the law when everything they know and believe points in the other direction. In other words, if it was legalized it would decriminalize people’s thoughts and in turn decriminalize their actions. Most people who are smokers… just want to smoke and not do the other drugs. If we could purchase our pot in legal stores then people could “decide” on their own, whether they want to or CAN buy it. The point is, it should be the people’s choice!
Depression – Marijuana does cause depression, but only when the person is a pure Pothead from their head down to their toe, hee hee. There’s nothing I hate more than a fuckin’ pothead who is, under normal circumstances smarter than the average bear, but then when he/she smokes gets dumber than the episode of Beavis & Butthead where everyone went around mimicking “Oww, Quit It!” I mean come on… if you have a brain, use it and don’t smoke pot you could ruin your future. For the rest of us “average Joes (or Joannes, 
” cannabis will only make us smarter, if you don’t overdo it!! Have some self-control people!!! OMG… We need the government officials to fully understand that we are not their little soldiers marching in some high school band, trying to be patriotic… we are humans who deserve the right to make our own decisions. For example: think about how many innocent people who only smoke pot every now and then must feel, when they are applying for a new job, haven’t toked in about 15 days, management thought the interview went well and <Bam!>–You need to take a drug test! Many Americans understand this policy ahead of time and also are aware of how to flush their system so the test comes up clean. The point is why should we get stressed out and cover up the fact that we are using a natural herb substance that is helping a heap more people than it has ever hurt?
A recent update I’ve seen was that cannabis will be legal throughout the US was in four years from now. Isn’t that too long of a wait for you? In those four years, cancer patients who can’t afford to relocate to another state, will suffer in agony because the government is and in certain areas will continue, to destroy medical marijuana 
crops due to laws that were created so long ago, when we did not have the full understanding of how much it helps. In those 4 years, millions of dollars worth of perfectly good cannabis will be gone due to the ignorance of so-called professionals that are only stuck behind the contracts they previously agreed upon with “Big Pharma.” I’ll leave the rest of this up to your imagination… or you could voice your opinion in the comment section below.
Suicidal ideation – O-M-G, what the fuck? I’m not even sure what to say here… moment, I need to stop laughing. — Not EVER in my life has marijuana influenced my opinions of suicide. IF ANYTHING… hittin’ the blunt after being depressed for a whole week straight (non-stop) only made the next week better. See people think that marijuana is “Just Like Other Drugs” well it’s NOT!! If you don’t have refer, you just DON’T HAVE IT! The only side effect you may or may not have is physical pain, but it is the SAME physical pain that was there before you smoked it. Marijuana simply numbs the bad feelings you are having inside. Within 2-3 hours after you smoke it, the numbness wears off… and everything goes back to normal. Accept one thing… the biggest factor!! This being, the physical pain that was gained by going through all that everyday stress, anxiety, and depression. This natural pain reliever is my “drug of choice” when it comes to my personal psychological medication needs. I will NEVER go back on that pill cocktail, or any other “trial & error” prescription drugs that most doctors say you need these days.
Addiction – Addiction is in the person and not in the drug! So does that mean everyone who has tried drugs before is a potential “drug abuser?” 41% of the 41% of the Americans who have admitted to trying marijuana would probably disagree. Anyone with some type of past “weakness” in their life “could” theoretically become a drug “user” but it is those times when peoples situations just never seem to get better than are the most at risk. And seeing the way the unemployment rate is increasing rapidly, I can foresee more and more people, little by little leaning toward heavy drugs to find the “fix” to their life-problems. Since they are the user, they are the victim and (like a child), really don’t know any better. Not because they “know the feeling of drugs and want that high” because they will settle for finding anything that will get them out of this “slump” that seems to be lasting forever in some eyes. Would you rather have a bunch of happy hippies floating around spreading love, hugs, & the peace pipe or an overwhelming increase in the amount of human beings that have found their way to the crack house to hit the pipe and needing recovery in the end? There is nothing wrong with speaking up and voicing your opinion! And you should whether you are a pot smoker or not.
Withdrawal Symptoms: (These seem to be far less side effects than the pharmaceutically prescribed, chemical bullshit that half the time doesn’t even fucking work!)
Sleeplessness – Not having something to smoke does not cause sleeplessness. I can put a bet on it that most smokers smoke because they have trouble with insomnia. Also, another one of my issues. Anxiety, depression then having to go from smoking and actually being able to sleep and not smoking and being up all night while the issues increase, then I choose to be high ^_^ naturally!
Decreased Appetite – I never experienced a decrease in appetite after not smoking weed in a while. Are they trying to make us believe that legalization of marijuana will cause us to be lazy and fat? Funny thing, I been all around this village here in the Netherlands and as an estimated guess I would say about 80% of the people who’ve passed me by were not overweight ~ With depression comes greed and selfishness and what would any animal do when they felt they were being threatened? The hoard things for themselves with no regard to the other animals needs. Don’t we all notice that America is the FATTEST nation and there are still children starving in Africa? When are we going to realize that there are also now, and more to come, human beings starving in the “richest country in the world? “ Wake Up, America… are you with me? I know… the worldwide depression has made you slow. Just smoke a bong, & relax!
Drug Craving – I think I’ve said enough. Here is where I end the blog… Why? Because I feel like it!! How about you make a comment and let the world know what you think. Does marijuana or the lack there of, cause you to have a craving or a need for weed? Be honest… you don’t ever have to give me your real name, lmao! Be creative with your comments, this is my domain so you can have freedom of speech here!! See you on Facebook Friends!!!
FYI:
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GO FOR A NATURAL HIGH
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…and by the way, if ya got nothing to say… you could always tell us how your Drug Resistance Awareness Education program went in grade school…
How old were you when the DARE officer came to your school?
Did your parents re-explain the drug issue with you after or during the time you were learning about it in school?
Have your views on drugs varied over the years or stayed the same?
Even if you don’t want to respond to all I’ve written so far… maybe you could just tell me about your experience(s) with marijuana or other drugs. Maybe you’ve had a friend or family member who suffered from drug or alcohol addiction. Or you could tell me your drug of choice. Anything that has to do with drugs, alcohol, or marijuana please comment!! I would love to read all of your personal feedback on this subject.
For all of my Fb friends who love to comment about just how high you are… now is your time to shine… I won’t delete or change any comments…. Enjoy!! (-:{}:-)
LEGAL TIPS FOR BLOWERS — by TwizzTed Tiffi
A Collection of Articles That Address Research on Marijuana
Source: TwizzTed Tiffi’s Personal Experience; Office of National Drug Control Policy